Posts Tagged ‘love’

364 Nights to go until Valentine’s Day!

What’s your Valentine’s Day Dream?

I know what you must be thinking, “But it was just Valentine’s Day yesterday!” And you’re absolutely right. That means you have a whole year minus one night to ensure that Valentine’s Day 2013 becomes one to remember, especially if yesterday was one you want to erase from memory! This is your chance to get to work, take action, do everything in your power – and let go of what isn’t – so that your next Valentine’s Day will be just the first in a long never-ending string of keepsake moments.

Sure, this sounds like the stuff of fantasies. But I can assure you that if you follow my simple steps you will be thanking me come next year. Believe me, I’ve been there. I even broke off a relationship the day after Valentine’s Day because it was such a letdown.  It may sound very frivolous and superficial, but if a guy makes you a romantic dinner with candles and a card and then proceeds to let you know his grown daughter is coming over (when you’ve only been dating for two months and you’ve only met her briefly), you know that there are some intimacy and “into you” issues that can only go downhill from there.

So what makes me the expert that can let you in on the secret to Valentine’s Day success? Well first of all, I was you, over and over again! And, that breakup I mentioned actually was the spark that started me down the path to writing my book “Change Your Sheets, Change Your Love Life”. But most importantly, because I followed my own advice, I had the best Valentine’s Day ever. My boyfriend surprised me with red roses and romance the night before; he woke me with kisses the day of; we shared a delicious dinner out at our favorite restaurant and he lovingly (and willingly I might add) watched a girlie chick-flick at the theater – surrounded by hundreds of sweet young couples with flowers and teddy bears – just because I wanted to see it. Who could ask for more?!

Now, do you want to know my secret?

If you do, here are 3 easy steps you can take right now:

1-      Love Yourself First – I know this sounds cliché, but it really is the most important step you can take if you really desire someone in your life. Someone that loves you as much as you love yourself. This means taking care of yourself, inside and out; doing the things you love to do; going to places you love to visit; and most of all being the happy person you are meant to be no matter what your momentary circumstances might be.

2-      Take Informed Action – All this step means is that you need to align your internal desires with your external world. It’s a known fact that an idea that just stays inside your brain has no chance of ever becoming a reality. In my book I explain the simple things you can do so that your bedroom exudes the message that you are ready and willing to share your space – and your life – with a loving partner. It’s very easy if you just start to live it like it’s already here. I know a girl who placed a coaster on the nightstand because she figured that if a man was sharing her bedroom he might like to bring a glass of water with him at bedtime. It wasn’t long before that was exactly what was happening in her life.

3-      Let it Flow – Once you’ve become an expert at steps 1 and 2, and you’re completely ready to have the relationship you’ve always dreamed of, comes the easiest step of all. Just let it come to you, because it will be inevitable. This doesn’t mean to sit on your hands and wait around for the phone to ring. Listen to your inner voice, be spontaneous, do what feels natural and easy to you. Don’t force it, but also don’t fear taking the first step. Even I had to contact an old boyfriend on Facebook to see if he wanted to go out for coffee, and have been surprisingly and happily with him ever since.

“Change Your Sheets, Change Your Love Life” is available at


Jennifer Aniston: Big Feng Shui Tips if you truly want this Love to Last!

jennifer and justin - A Love to Last!

Dear Jen,

this romance with Justin is looking very promising. If you really think he’s The One, follow these Feng Shui Relationship tips and you’ll be marching down the aisle in no time! This goes for all of you single ladies out there too.

You know we’re all rooting for you, ever since that heartbreaking split a few years back; and we’ve all been watching you hop and skip from great catch to fizzled romance. So Jen, it’s time to make some changes that will get you to the altar and keep you basking in true love for years to come. And now that you’re house-hunting, this is the perfect time to take these simple steps toward fulfilling your heart’s desire.

1-      Find a Home with the Master Bedroom in the Relationship Quadrant

Walk up to your new home and open the front door. Stand in the doorway facing in and locate the master bedroom. Is it in the far back right hand corner of the floor plan? If it isn’t, just shut the door and keep looking! This isn’t the home that will ensure many years of lovey-dovey togetherness.

2-      Place your Bed in the Future Quadrant

Once you’ve found the perfect home, with the master bedroom in the Relationship Quadrant, the next step is to perfectly place your bed with the intention for a long and lasting romance. So, stand in the doorway to your bedroom looking in. The center area of the wall opposite the door is where you will find the Future Quadrant. Place your bed in this area and the message you’ll be sending the Universe is that you truly desire a love that lasts a lifetime.

3-      Pick out Two Nightstands

Jen, it seems to me that you like the strong, independent types, so no “matchy-matchy” for you. Pick out two nightstands that are equal in volume but not identical and you’ll be setting the tone for a relationship that enjoys each other’s individualities. And in case I’m mistaken about your taste in partners, just make sure to have two nightstands that match your relationship style. If you want to stop being a lonely single girl, you’ve got to set the intention that you’ve got room for a partner in your life and that you’re willing to share some “drawers” together!

4-      Balance Your Elements

Now this step I highly recommend for Relationship Bliss. You and Justin should get your Element Test results so that you can add decorative images, colors and objects to your bedroom that balance both of you as a couple. He looks like he’s got a lot of Fire Element and you don’t want your bedroom to turn into a bonfire! I actually also recommend this for the rest of your home as well, since the more time you love birds spend nesting together the more chance that your home will affect your bliss.

5-      Make it a Retreat for the Senses

I know you’re both madly in love, but there are just two things you should be doing in your Master Bedroom, and one of them is re-energizing for your hectic, premier hopping, movie filming life on the go. Make sure your bedroom is a space where love and rest are both encouraged in a gender-neutral yet sensually pleasing way with candles, lush fabrics, soft cushions, and lots of pairs to emphasize your desire to be a couple.

6-      Write your WE letters to each other

And Jen, last but not least, the piece de resistance, write your Love – WE – Letters to each other. Let Justin know just what you adore about your life with him and sweetly ask him to do the same for you. Once you’ve got those letters, place them in the top drawer of the nightstand that’s in the back right corner of your bedroom. Just think, you’ll be able to read them to each other on those special nights to come!

I’ve got my fingers crossed for you Jen but follow my tips and I know you’ll be hearing wedding bells in your future. Good luck and Good Feng Shui!

Carolyn T – Feng Shui Matchmaker


Feng Shui the Objects in your Bedroom for a Thriving Relationship

Sweet and cuddly or sweeeet and cuuudly?

When you stand in the doorway to your bedroom what do you see? What’s the first object that catches your attention?  Does your bedroom feel welcoming and cozy? If you’re a woman, does it feel too feminine to welcome a male partner, or vice versa? If you’re in a relationship, does your bedroom feel like you both have an equal partnership within the space? The objects in your bedroom have their own Feng Shui Element and/or historic energy. They can enhance your experience or keep you from the intentions your space should benefit.

What are the two main activities that should be optimized within your master bedroom? It would seem that these are obvious. But so many times we have objects such as: a desk, a television, a tall pile of books, or even boxes or clutter under the bed. Any objects that interfere with revitalizing sleep or life-affirming intimacy should be removed from your bedroom.

Here are some examples of objects that should be removed from your bedroom and what you should use instead:

  • King sized Bed – most of these are supported by a split box spring. When partners sleep on them, they usually end up on opposite sides of the bed due to the ridge that is formed in the middle. Not very good for a cozy relationship! Replace it with a Queen sized bed for more intimacy, and a stable relationship. The Queen bed has a square shape, a symbol for the Earth Element, which brings stability and a feeling of safety.
  •  Stuffed Animals or Pictures of Children – an adult bedroom should be just that, Adult! From the colors used to the textures and fabrics, the entire experience of the bedroom should be in line with the adult intentions for the space. You wouldn’t have a Buzz Lightyear bedspread, right? Keep the kids objects in their room and make yours a sensual experience for you and your partner. Place images of loving couples in your bedroom, and if you have some happy pictures with your mate use them too.
  •  Big Black Plasma TV – when it is turned off, this big black hole on the wall can add lots of Water Element and douse the Fire of passion. When it’s turned on it becomes a distraction to intimacy. Both of these are definite Relationship busters! There are many ways to deal with this dilemma. The first would be to remove it entirely from the bedroom, and replace it with a beautiful image on the wall; one that keeps you dreaming of your future together. If removal is not an option, then place it inside an armoire, so that you can shut it away when not in use. Or as a last resort, drape a throw over it at night before going to sleep, or have a screen saver with a beautiful scene on display.
  • Dried flowers or dusty silk plants – a master bedroom should be a place that symbolizes two persons thriving together (even if only one person occupies the space and just desires a loving relationship).  Dead and dusty plants are the absolute opposite of that intention. Replace them with romantic candles, live plants like an orchid, or lovingly dust off the existing silk plants. A happy relationship is formed by two persons growing together, so make sure the objects in your bedroom reflect who you really intend to be.

These are just a few of the actions you can take to create a bedroom that is really in tune with good Feng Shui for a Thriving Relationship. Take a look around your bedroom and make sure it’s in line with your true desires and intentions. That’s the first and most important step to fulfilling your dreams, which is the sole purpose of great Feng Shui.