Great Tips for Easy Hotel Room Feng Shui

Easy Hotel Room Feng Shui

Anyone lucky enough to travel, whether for business or pleasure, has likely had a wide range of experiences when entering a hotel for the first time. From the glorious tropical flower arrangements in the lobby to the timeworn carpet in the hallways, and even the possibility of total assaults on our senses that loud music or pungent odors can cause. Unless you’ve been to the hotel before you can never be sure of what you’re going to get, and sometimes not even then. Much like that commercial for internet travel sites that sell you a beautiful picture that doesn’t convert to reality once you arrive.

There are some things you can do before you go that can help prepare you for the worst or even help you to deal with the non-energetically aligned. Some folks travel with their own pillow, while others like my sister even carry their own Clorox wipes and Febreze. Both of these seem extreme, but they’re actually on the right path to creating great chi in your hotel room. Remember, chi involves all of your senses and how you experience a space, so anything that will make you feel more comfortable and at ease is always a plus.

Here are my Top Tips that will also get you heading in the right positive chi direction:

–          Many hotel rooms are furnished with the classic dresser that has a large mirror above it. Unfortunately this piece of furniture is also usually directly in line with the foot of your bed. Some rooms may also have a large television on the dresser facing the foot of your bed. Both cases can cause restless sleep patterns and uneasiness when in bed. A simple fix is to always travel with a cotton shawl that you can use to throw over the mirror or television when you’re ready to sleep. If you’re a woman, you may even get some double use out of the shawl if it matches your travel attire! If you’re a guy and don’t have any shawls handy, you can also use the extra blanket or bed coverlet that’s already in the room.

–          Good feng shui always deals with what’s happening in your Relationship Quadrant, so who says that even a temporary space like a hotel room should be any different? Pack a non-breakable picture frame with an image of you and your sweetie and place it in the far right corner of your hotel room. This will keep you in mental alignment with the desire for closeness while you’re far apart. If you’re traveling together, it will keep reminding you of your love for each other, even through the often stressful events that travel can involve. You know, like booking the romantic ocean view and then finding out that it’s above the outdoor restaurant! Add a couple of pink candles and your romance chi will be flowing.

–          For all you business travelers, I have a couple of tips that may make the difference between coming home empty-handed or landing that big deal. There are two areas in your hotel room that you can enhance with some good feng shui tools. The first is the far left corner of your room. This is your Wealth Quadrant, so it’s pretty obvious that you should give it an extra boost. While I don’t necessarily recommend packing them in your luggage, they shouldn’t be too difficult to find once you arrive at your destination. Purchase some pretty red, pink or yellow flowers, arrange them in one of the extra glasses from your mini-bar or bathroom and place them on the nightstand or the work table in this corner. Flowers embody fruition and the flowering of your prosperity. If you feel like spending large, buy a live orchid plant and then leave it as a gift to your housekeeping person. She will be sure to spread the word about what a wonderful guest you were and it will give you lots of positive chi when you return in the future. The other place to keep in mind is the area midway along the right wall of your hotel room. This is your Creativity Quadrant and is where your projects are being hatched. This is a great area to place your work related documents, work on your laptop, or place an object that reminds you of that goal you came to accomplish. Both of these tips will keep you mentally focused on attaining your business objectives.

–          Sounds and smells in your room are also very important to creating good feng shui. As I mentioned, all of your senses are involved in perceiving positive chi. Fortunately, every hotel room usually includes the ubiquitous radio/alarm clock. Tune it to a station playing the music you love to listen to at home and you are immediately connected to good memories. Or, if your trip is definitely on the stressful side, tune it to some classical or soft jazz and infuse your space with calming melodies. Sound completely fills a space and keeps the loneliness away, or it can be an accomplice to setting a romantic mood for you and your travel companion. Smell on the other hand just has the potential to invite you in or repel you in the opposite direction. It’s over in an instant but can leave a very lasting impression. It’s also very personal and can be implemented in a variety of ways. Infuse a handkerchief with your honey’s favorite perfume or cologne and place it on your nightstand and you will fall asleep with loving thoughts; plug in a wall diffuser in your bathroom with a citrus scent and you’ll be invigorated before heading to that early morning breakfast meeting; or bring a spray bottle with your favorite air freshener and lightly mist your room.

All of these items are very easy to pack in your luggage or find once you arrive, and they will certainly turn your hotel room stay into a positively personalized experience. And that is what good feng shui is all about!


“You”nique Feng Shui Element Tips and Recommendations

Did you know that your personality relates directly to the characteristics of the Feng Shui Elements? By answering some very simple and straightforward questions on a Feng Shui Element Test you can determine things like: why certain colors have different effects on you, why the size of your bedroom furniture can affect your energy level when you need to get out of bed in the morning, and even how the shape of your dining room table can affect your family communication at dinner time.

"You"niquely You!

The five Feng Shui Elements: Water, Fire, Wood, Metal and Earth are present in everything around you and even within you as well. Depending upon your particular mix of Elements or even lack of some, you can enhance your spaces and even the clothes you wear in order to achieve better balance and activate your achievement of goals. Your individual Elemental personality can even have an effect on the career you choose. A great example of this was an individual who, when tested, was shown not to have any Fire Element in his outward personality. When asked what he did for a living, his reply was that he taught kindergarten. It’s no wonder, since his lack of Fire meshed perfectly with the excessive Fire his students represented!

Feng Shui Element testing also relates to both sides of your personality: who you are in public and who you are in private. Some people are identical in all areas of their life and they tend to have the same mix of Elements both hidden and expressed. Lastly, Element testing can also reveal whether the Feng Shui Elements that make up your personality are positive or challenged. Just as in nature, an Element has a positive side and a challenged side. Think of Fire. It can be warm and cozy in the fireplace or an inferno and devastating in a forest fire.

Here are some simple explanations of the Feng Shui Elements and how they relate to personality:

  • Water – a positive Water person is easygoing, go with the flow, and nurturing – a challenged Water person is like a tsunami that wipes the slate clean
  • Fire – a positive Fire person is energetic, warm, passionate, and motivated – a challenged Fire person is quick to anger, and burns bridges
  • Wood – a positive Wood person loves change, thrives on learning new things, and is flexible – a challenged Wood person prefers to be uprooted than to bend with the wind
  • Metal – a positive Metal person is analytical, a problem solver, methodical and thoughtful – a challenged Metal person will over analyze a problem and not get to a conclusion
  • Earth – a positive Earth person is solid, grounded and to be trusted – a challenged Earth person can be stubborn, boring or a couch-potato

It should be noted though, that even the challenged traits have a silver lining. A person with a challenged Fire will be the first to jump out of bed at the sign of an intruder, and a challenged Water trait can help us move past difficult situations by removing them from our path.

Each of us has a certain amount of all of the Elements and it will vary as we age and mature, or as we accomplish different goals throughout life. A young 20-year old girl will have a different need for the Fire Element than a 29-year old mother of two toddlers. Because of this, as we go through the different stages of our lives, we change our color choices in clothing and in décor. In doing so we are subconsciously balancing our Feng Shui Elements. With the results of Element Testing we can do this in a conscious manner instead. If we happen to be missing Fire Element but need to go out and pitch our architectural design project, we can wear a pink shirt and seal the deal, just as one of my clients did. We can also change the color of our bedroom walls in order to help us move past the grief over the loss of a loved one, just as my latest client did.

Feng Shui Element testing assists me in making truly individualized recommendations for my clients, as each of us is completely different in our Elemental makeup, especially at any given point in time.  Feng Shui testing can change a “generic prescription” into “just what the doctor ordered” for optimum results!

If you’re curious about your own Feng Shui Element personality email your request to, or for more specialized Feng Shui bedroom recommendations for a happy and balanced relationship, purchase my book Change Your Sheets Change Your Love Life at

Feng Shui the Objects in your Bedroom for a Thriving Relationship

Sweet and cuddly or sweeeet and cuuudly?

When you stand in the doorway to your bedroom what do you see? What’s the first object that catches your attention?  Does your bedroom feel welcoming and cozy? If you’re a woman, does it feel too feminine to welcome a male partner, or vice versa? If you’re in a relationship, does your bedroom feel like you both have an equal partnership within the space? The objects in your bedroom have their own Feng Shui Element and/or historic energy. They can enhance your experience or keep you from the intentions your space should benefit.

What are the two main activities that should be optimized within your master bedroom? It would seem that these are obvious. But so many times we have objects such as: a desk, a television, a tall pile of books, or even boxes or clutter under the bed. Any objects that interfere with revitalizing sleep or life-affirming intimacy should be removed from your bedroom.

Here are some examples of objects that should be removed from your bedroom and what you should use instead:

  • King sized Bed – most of these are supported by a split box spring. When partners sleep on them, they usually end up on opposite sides of the bed due to the ridge that is formed in the middle. Not very good for a cozy relationship! Replace it with a Queen sized bed for more intimacy, and a stable relationship. The Queen bed has a square shape, a symbol for the Earth Element, which brings stability and a feeling of safety.
  •  Stuffed Animals or Pictures of Children – an adult bedroom should be just that, Adult! From the colors used to the textures and fabrics, the entire experience of the bedroom should be in line with the adult intentions for the space. You wouldn’t have a Buzz Lightyear bedspread, right? Keep the kids objects in their room and make yours a sensual experience for you and your partner. Place images of loving couples in your bedroom, and if you have some happy pictures with your mate use them too.
  •  Big Black Plasma TV – when it is turned off, this big black hole on the wall can add lots of Water Element and douse the Fire of passion. When it’s turned on it becomes a distraction to intimacy. Both of these are definite Relationship busters! There are many ways to deal with this dilemma. The first would be to remove it entirely from the bedroom, and replace it with a beautiful image on the wall; one that keeps you dreaming of your future together. If removal is not an option, then place it inside an armoire, so that you can shut it away when not in use. Or as a last resort, drape a throw over it at night before going to sleep, or have a screen saver with a beautiful scene on display.
  • Dried flowers or dusty silk plants – a master bedroom should be a place that symbolizes two persons thriving together (even if only one person occupies the space and just desires a loving relationship).  Dead and dusty plants are the absolute opposite of that intention. Replace them with romantic candles, live plants like an orchid, or lovingly dust off the existing silk plants. A happy relationship is formed by two persons growing together, so make sure the objects in your bedroom reflect who you really intend to be.

These are just a few of the actions you can take to create a bedroom that is really in tune with good Feng Shui for a Thriving Relationship. Take a look around your bedroom and make sure it’s in line with your true desires and intentions. That’s the first and most important step to fulfilling your dreams, which is the sole purpose of great Feng Shui.

5 Feng Shui Bedroom Locations and What they mean for your Love Life

Best Feng Shui Location for Lasting Love

Have you ever wondered how the different Feng Shui Quadrants can affect your bedroom? Did you know that where your bedroom is located within your house can actually determine what your love life is like? And, by the same token, where your bed is located within your bedroom can determine whether you and your partner are just “good friends”, or “a great couple”, or even “mostly physical”. Keep reading and you just might find out that your house choice may be affecting your relationship style!

There are 9 Quadrants in Feng Shui, and depending upon the school you may have read about, the names can change slightly from one to the next. So, for both non-Feng Shui experts as well as the Feng Shui savvy, I will list the bedroom locations with standard left/right/back/front/center descriptions too. See if you can find your bedroom location and what it is saying about you.

1.       Compassion Quadrant:

When standing at the front door to your home and looking inward, your bedroom is at the Right Front corner of your home. Normally, according to my extensive research, partners whose bedroom is in this area of the house have a relationship in which one person does most of the work to keep the partnership alive. Sometimes one of the partners needs long-term care, or has lost a job, and the other has to step in to help out. As long as this is just a temporary phase things may be able to work themselves out in the long run, but if you’re single and your bedroom is in this location, check to see if you keep getting into relationships with a partner that you need to fix, help out, or just isn’t as interested as you in being close.

2.       Creativity Quadrant:

When standing at the front door to your home and looking inward, your bedroom is at the Right Center wall of your home. What I have encountered with this location can be good and not so good! Your relationship may have lots of “creative physical” activity, wink, wink, but you may also have a marriage that is child-centric.  This is the area for descendants, so be extra careful to keep your romance blossoming too. There are many Feng Shui recommendations to keep your love life happy, and this would be a great time to check some out!

3.       Community Quadrant:

When standing at the front door to your house and looking inward, your bedroom is on the Left Center wall of your home. This area of your home is where Feng Shui honors your Ancestors and your Friends. You guessed it! If your bedroom is in this part of your house, your marriage may be more of a partnership and you have become good friends, more than romantic lovers. Of course each person has the choice in what style of relationship to pursue, so if this is what you desire then this is the location that is right for you.

4.       Self-Empowerment Quadrant:

When you stand at the front door to your house and look inward, your bedroom is located in the Left Back corner of your home. This is also known as the Wealth area of the home, and relationships with a bedroom located here may have issues with finances. Of course, everything is relative, as I know a couple who has been together for a very long time and whose bedroom is in this area of their home. The important key is that they have also been business partners for most of their marriage too, and their bed is located in the Creativity area of their bedroom. That’s right, there’s another layer on information that’s important in determining what’s the link between your bedroom, your bed and your love life.

5.       Relationship Quadrant:

When you stand at the front door to your house and look inward, your bedroom is in the Right Back corner of your home. This is the optimum location for a bedroom where a loving and committed relationship is desired. Your bed should be placed in the center of the wall across from the wall where the bedroom door is located, or in the Future area.

There are other quadrants, as well as many house designs, that need to be taken into consideration when finding out what your bedroom location is and what it’s saying about your specific situation. If you live in a home that has an “L” shape floor plan, you will have a missing quadrant and that will affect your outcome too. The most important aspect of this information is to begin living with knowledge and purpose, which means finding out where you are and what you really desire in a relationship and then getting the right Feng Shui recommendations for you! Good Luck! And Good Feng Shui!

3 Feng Shui Bed Location Principles and Why NOT to Follow Them

Bed in front of a no or not?

Every Feng Shui book I’ve ever read, and even every Feng Shui blog on the internet for that matter, has the same time-worn advice on what the optimum placement is for your bed.  Through research and experience with my own clients, I’ve found that what we’ve been told is optimum is not always the best for our personal intentions. Here are the top 3 principles of bed placement and why they aren’t always right for everyone:

1-      The bed should not be in front of a window

My client Gina wanted to have a stronger relationship with her partner. She had been living with him for 5 years and still did not have the wedding band her heart desired. When we moved her bed to the location that was in optimum alignment with what she intended, from the Ancestors to the Future Quadrant of her bedroom, it happened to be in front of a window.  It was now in an alcove, beautifully framed by the window treatments, and truly honored her relationship desires. Both partners felt the change and are now on their way to a deeper commitment. So, don’t let windows get in your way of your true intentions, just make sure to draw the curtains at night.

2-      The foot of the bed should not point towards a door

Donna and Dale are a couple that met due to Feng Shui. Because of the architectural features of their bedroom, their bed is on the Future wall and faces a set of French doors.  It also happens to be in front of a window! The bed was originally in the Ancestors Quadrant in Donna’s room, and two days after she moved it she met Dale. They are now happily married and make sure to draw the curtains at night and close the bedroom doors before going to sleep.

3-      The bed should be in the area diagonally opposite the door

This principle can be somewhat vague, and it can lead to a bed placement that isn’t in alignment with what you really desire to achieve. This was my case not so long ago, and it’s what sparked me to do more research and to publish a book about bedroom Feng Shui.

My bed was also in the Ancestors Quadrant, which was diagonally opposite my bedroom door, just as all the books suggest. Since my desire was to find a partner and have a committed relationship, this quadrant wasn’t being very helpful. The energetic alignment it was giving me was to have many friendships or for partnerships to trend towards the past. And that’s exactly what was happening! Every potential partner I dated would become a friend, Feng Shui client or fizzle into the past. 3 days after I moved my bed to the Future wall (which was also diagonally opposite my bedroom door), I met a wonderful man that lead me to the relationship I was intending.

I know this may sound somewhat confusing, but the real nugget of truth to the Feng Shui placement of your bed is, that you should first know what your intentions are and then you can decide what quadrant will align you to them.  Do you want a relationship in your future? Do you just want to get to know yourself better before you proceed down the relationship path? Are you happy to just have lots of friends and not a solid commitment? Do you just want to have physical connections to partners? Answer these questions and you’ll have the right answer to where your bed should be. And remember, you can always just move your bed!

The 3 Love-busting Mistakes to Avoid When Creating Boudoir Feng Shui for a Lasting Relationship

Creating the right Feng Shui mood for a Lasting Relationship

 When I’m approached by a client longing to find that perfect life partner, these three Feng Shui mistakes are the usual culprits holding them back from the PEA – Physical and Energetic Alignment – with their desires. You too can take a peek into your bedroom and transform it into the “Boudoir” that invites a loving relationship to flourish.  If you have:

1 – Pictures of your children            So many of us, especially single parents, surround ourselves with images and objects that are reminders of our love for our children. Another version of this mistake is placing within our bedroom objects from a past relationship or heirlooms handed down from our ancestors. The most important thing to keep in mind is that a “boudoir” is the place where we honor our adult connection to a present or future partner. An object or image of anyone other than your partner is as much an intrusion on your energetic privacy as the actual presence of those persons in your bedroom. Not a good visual during an intimate moment, right?!

 2 – Too “Girlie” or “Masculine” décor             Another major mistake I often notice, when entering into a client’s bedroom, is the use of predominantly feminine or masculine décor. A profusion of “girlie” pink and flowers, or the rigid blue stripes of a bachelor pad do not a “boudoir” make! Think in terms of sensual colors, fabrics and textures that elicit the romance in both partners. Most especially, all white bedrooms are a big no-no. Who wants to worry about getting things dirty while in the midst of a passionate encounter?

 3 – One Lonely  Nightstand           This is the surest sign that we are not in alignment with the desire to share our life with a partner. Even when we’re already in a live-in relationship. My clients – Christina and Jeff – were longing to be in a balanced relationship, but the one nightstand in the corner with all of the bedroom gadgets under just one person’s control was energetically stating the opposite. The first step we took in aligning the Feng Shui with their true desires was to purchase a matching set of nightstands. Although each couple or the desire for one is different, in this case the two identical nightstands mirrored their view of the kind of relationship they intended. Now they share control over the bedroom gadgets and have achieved a more balanced union. Sometimes what we think we want on the intellectual level is not in alignment with our emotional level. Once one partner made the leap and connected the two – letting go, and trusting their partner – the PEA in the bedroom helped them to connect them to their true desires.

Learn more about PEA from the book Change Your Sheets Change Your Love Life available at

Is Your Bed Speaking the Right Feng Shui Language?

Valentine’s Day 2009 I’m dating a Gemini, and I already know it’s not really going anywhere. So what do I do? I decide to wish myself a Happy Valentine’s Day by making my bed with a set of sumptuous red satin sheets, knowing full well I’ll be the only one sleeping on them tonight. Oh well, just another night on the quest!

After a few nights of slipping and sliding around on those sheets, that I had bought a year earlier while dating the Doctor and had never gotten a chance to use, it hit me: What is wrong with these sheets? (Because, of course, it was the sheets, right?) Why is all this fabric, which should be the destination for passionate encounters, just not feeling quite right? I went to sleep on a Saturday night with the question rolling around in my head, as I rolled around for one last night wondering what the answer might be.

Sunday morning I leapt out of bed. Oh my God! I’m supposed to be this knowledgeable Feng Shui consultant. How is it possible that I didn’t see the connection!

The red satin sheets, one of the purest symbols for the Feng Shui Fire Element, were on a bed that I had placed in what is called the “Community or Ancestors Quadrant”. In plain English, that meant I was sleeping on red satin sheets with my grandparents, my parents, and all of my friends and neighbors. No wonder every single wonderful man I had dated since moving into this house had fizzled into good friend status.

When I originally placed the furniture in my bedroom I had followed every Feng Shui guideline in every book I’d read so far. But just because my bed was technically in the “Self-Empowerment” area of my bedroom − diagonally opposite my entrance door and considered to be the best location in Feng Shui terms − I apparently wasn’t sending out the right message for what I desired most. I truly intended to be in a loving and committed relationship. Mistakenly I thought I had done everything necessary to get there.

I didn’t wait another second. I started moving my furniture around so that my bed was now in the Future Quadrant, with my two nightstands on either side. Suddenly the room seemed different. My energy and intentions felt like they were in perfect alignment for the first time. Finally, my red satin sheets were connected to their true purpose.

This flurry of activity started a chain reaction for me. I thought back to every bedroom I had ever occupied (as an architect by training, it comes naturally). I thought about my sisters and their bedrooms and relationships. Then I called my best friend Donna, who had been going through similar relationship issues and whose bed was in the same exact placement as mine. “Donna, you’ve got to move your bed!” I exclaimed, the minute she picked up the phone.

The following Monday, at a gathering of the Millionth Circle − a women’s empowerment group − a question was asked: “If you could do anything, what would your wildest dream be?” When my turn came, to my amazement I blurted out, “I’m going to write a book called ‘Change Your Sheets, Change Your Love Life’!” All the women giggled, but they also wanted to participate in the surveys and interviews I would conduct in my quest to reveal if my discovery could be just as important to their relationship paths as well.

I could not have imagined that an incredible moment of Feng Shui clarity, on that fateful Sunday morning, would lead me down this wonderful and sinuous path towards confirmation. My book is what resulted from the marriage between self-knowledge and the power of intentional and conscious placement in the spaces we inhabit.

Most magical though is that, four days after I “Changed my Sheets” and moved my bed, I met the man of my dreams.