When I’m approached by a client longing to find that perfect life partner, these three Feng Shui mistakes are the usual culprits holding them back from the PEA – Physical and Energetic Alignment – with their desires. You too can take a peek into your bedroom and transform it into the “Boudoir” that invites a loving relationship to flourish. If you have:
1 – Pictures of your children So many of us, especially single parents, surround ourselves with images and objects that are reminders of our love for our children. Another version of this mistake is placing within our bedroom objects from a past relationship or heirlooms handed down from our ancestors. The most important thing to keep in mind is that a “boudoir” is the place where we honor our adult connection to a present or future partner. An object or image of anyone other than your partner is as much an intrusion on your energetic privacy as the actual presence of those persons in your bedroom. Not a good visual during an intimate moment, right?!
2 – Too “Girlie” or “Masculine” décor Another major mistake I often notice, when entering into a client’s bedroom, is the use of predominantly feminine or masculine décor. A profusion of “girlie” pink and flowers, or the rigid blue stripes of a bachelor pad do not a “boudoir” make! Think in terms of sensual colors, fabrics and textures that elicit the romance in both partners. Most especially, all white bedrooms are a big no-no. Who wants to worry about getting things dirty while in the midst of a passionate encounter?
3 – One Lonely Nightstand This is the surest sign that we are not in alignment with the desire to share our life with a partner. Even when we’re already in a live-in relationship. My clients – Christina and Jeff – were longing to be in a balanced relationship, but the one nightstand in the corner with all of the bedroom gadgets under just one person’s control was energetically stating the opposite. The first step we took in aligning the Feng Shui with their true desires was to purchase a matching set of nightstands. Although each couple or the desire for one is different, in this case the two identical nightstands mirrored their view of the kind of relationship they intended. Now they share control over the bedroom gadgets and have achieved a more balanced union. Sometimes what we think we want on the intellectual level is not in alignment with our emotional level. Once one partner made the leap and connected the two – letting go, and trusting their partner – the PEA in the bedroom helped them to connect them to their true desires.
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